Many Thanks

Yesterday was Thanksgiving in the U.S.  It’s a day that has become the official start of the Christmas season as families gather for good food and fellowship.  But the original intent of the Holiday was to simply thank God for all that he did during the last year.

So what am I thankful for?  I’m thankful for my family.  Here I am, in my fifth decade, and I finally made an announcement yesterday.  I AM GAY!  Granted, I’m sure most have suspected it for a long time, but there it was out in the open.  And it felt good.  A weight lifted off my shoulders and drifted away as I let out a part of me that I had kept tightly in my grasp for so long.   Over the years it had grown quite heavy and cumbersome and made me separate myself from my family in both physical and emotional ways.

What happened?  Well, there were a lot of tears.   My niece cried because she was upset that I had never felt comfortable enough to tell them.  My sister cried because she was happy that I finally felt ok to say the words she had always known were inside me.  They also demanded to meet Tigger when she visits at Christmas.  (Poor Tigger!)

So…..I’m thankful for my family.  I no longer have this secret that makes me wear a mask each time I’m with them.  They accepted the real me without question and expressed their love and support.  I guess I’m pretty lucky… and very thankful.

 

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50 thoughts on “Many Thanks

  1. I have to admit I wasn’t surprised at the reaction, Hupo. But the real surprise for me was that it was a different sister and niece than I would have suspected would get emotional. I smile when I think about how they all surrounded me and began talking about the gay friends they have. It was their way to prove to me that they are OK with it all. I have a cool family!

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    1. Thank you Mishi. It’s been a long time coming and I’m glad I don’t have to carry the secret around any more. It made just being with my family stressful without them having done anything to deserve my hesitation.

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  2. That’s wonderful. I’m so glad you got such a positive response. I’m not gay, although I have a suspistion that I might be bi (you’ve read my stories, right? Lol) so I cant really imagine what stress you were going through hiding your secret, but I’m so happy everything worked out for you. Congrats and happy holidays!

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  3. Micah I am tremendously proud of you and your family. What a wonderful Thanksgiving and an example of the true spirit of the holiday.

    Sending you a big hug!!! I will send Tigger her choice of alcohol for her December Family introduction. 😉

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  4. Go You Micah, thats fantastic news! Im so glad you came out and everyone was supoortive and happy for you!

    I bet that will be a special day for you in future! Makes it that more special to think back on such a heartfelt day!

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    1. Thank you Carrie! Thanksgiving and Christmas have always been special Holidays to me. I suspect they will take on a new level of meaning for me in the future!

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    1. Thank you Pakpak. To be honest, the family members that are the most likely to disapprove weren’t there. I planned to announce it before I knew they couldn’t make it, but there is still a couple left to tell.
      But at least at my age, I’ve made my own life so they can accept me or not. It’s not going to make me change anything.

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  5. Congrats Micah! Im so proud of you and happy for you and your family! What an awesome reaction! I’m sure Thanksgiving will always be even more special now with that memory.

    I’m sure you and Tigger will have a extra special Christmas too!

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    1. A truly thankful Thanksgiving. Congratulations Micah. I’m sure a great weight has been lifted from your shoulders. Now you can be “you”.
      Hugs to you and Tigger.

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      1. Thanks Jojo. To be honest, I’ve not been myself with them for so many years, I’m not even sure how to do it. But at least it’s a start and I’m at peace with it. That’s the main thing!

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  6. That’s great news, Micah. Good for you for making the plunge. *hugs* I remember my own coming out and how scary it can be. And it doesn’t always end like we want it to, but it’s wonderful your family was so supportive. *LOL* on the gay friends remarks — one of my friends said to me, “Oh good, now I have someone I can ask about gay stuff!” 😀

    It’s not always easy to stand in our truth, but it’s always rewarding. I celebrate you standing in yours! (As for introducing your SO to the family….that’s another adventure in itself! Sending lots of virtual hugs and encouraging swats to you and Tigger. *vbg*)

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    1. Thank you Alyx. I was pretty nervous…..but determined about making the announcement.
      It’s funny but suddenly different family members were telling me about this and that person they know that’s gay. One even texted to the gay friend and had her congratulate me. LOL
      Introducing TIgger to my family is going to be interesting. I hope to have a stiff drink in my hand throughout that evening!

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  7. Congratulations my friend Micah, for your courage and I’m very happy that you are unrevealed your true self and shine. And you rewarded with love and acceptance. I think your family already knew but they waited when you thought it was the right time to share with them. YOU are so blessed to have a loving family such as yours. We were the lucky ones you know when we come to our family’s they our not closed minded and don’t put people tags…

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  8. Micah, I am SO PROUD of you. You were brave and strong and, for me, inspiring. I hug you tight knowing that you must feel so much lighter today, and so much happier that you can finally be openly honest with the people you love the most about how you feel and who you love, as well as who you are. You are awesome!
    This is another lesson from you I pack with a big warm smile. Thank you so much!

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    1. Thank you for the kind words, Ellie. But make sure you decide for yourself when/if you decide to tell your family. No one has the exact same circumstances so we each have to decide for ourselves. I hope that you and the other ladies here can be true to yourself much earlier than I have. However, only you can decide when the time is right. Hopefully, we will still be around to offer you encouragement and support when that time comes for you.

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      1. I know. 🙂 When i said you were inspiring I didn’t mean it for the immediate future, but yes, you made my heart swell. 🙂 As for me, I see this as being a very far stage for now. Very far.

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        1. I probably sounded like I was lecturing you but actually was saying it to all the young women on the blog. You were just nice enough to say you were inspired.
          I seem to have this need to worry about all of you young women and can’t refrain from offering advice.

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  9. Wow! Congratulations Micah! I’m so very proud of you for being so brave and true to yourself and extremely happy you received the love and support from your family that you deserve….and that everyone deserves. You are a true inspiration to others.
    I’m wondering if maybe a bottle (or 3) of Bushmills would be in order for Tigger for Christmas?
    “Meeting the family” is the same the world over, I would imagine. Lots of alcohol helps! 😊
    Although you have a very cool family! Kudos to them!

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  10. How awesome Micah! I’m very happy for you, especially that it looks to have brought you and your family closer. The stress that sounded to have been for you, I’m so thankful it’s lifted, and you can be freely you. Huge Hugs to you for the challenges in your past, for your courageously brave and inspiring present, and for a much happier enjoyable future.

    And best of luck Tigger!

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    1. Thank you ABC. Holding that secret has made me often feel guilty so it’s definitely a liberating experience. It’s also not fair to TIgger that I haven’t had her meet them. I’m glad to rectify that over Christmas.

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  11. Well done, Micah! I’m proud of you. ❤ I think I always had it very easy with the gay thing, and I know I can't truly understand what it has been like for you all these years, but I know that it took a lot of guts to come out and say it. 🙂 I am really glad your family are there for you and want to meet your special someone. Best wishes!

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    1. Hey Ash! I don’t know how I managed it but I missed your comment until now. Sorry about that. My only excuse is that things have sped up for me for the Holidays and I’m not spending much time on my laptop.
      Thank you for the well wishes. Tigger will be arriving soon and I’m looking forward to the burst of energy that she always gives me. I guess it’s something to do with finally getting to scratch that itch in my palm.

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      1. That’s alright. 😉 I hope the two of you have a great Christmas together! 🙂
        I’m out doing last minute shopping before the big night tomorrow (that’s when we open our gifts). I’m also going to work on my story! 😀
        Merry Christmas! ❤

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      1. Yes, there is very little time in my life to sit back and relax at the moment, so I am extra enjoying the holidays ! Thank you for the good wishes. Tomorrow night is the big night and much of my family is together this year so I am very much looking forward to it :).

        Have a good trip, you two, and leave some eggnog for the others …. 😉

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  12. Congratulations Micah I’m very happy for you. You were so brave, I’ve just read it and my heart is full from joy. Wonderful news ever.!!!!!♥️ share everything with your family no more secrets. You gonna have the best holidays ever ♥️ You are a wonderful person, loving caring so you just received back from your family what they already past on you. That’s reason to party on night long…. ♥️

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  13. Greece to the rescue… Hello ma’am how are you? One day before Christmas yeah!!! but who is counting 🤔. I heard news from Santa……. He told me he received and read your letter. However, because you were a bit naughty, all he was able to get you is coal! 😜😜😜😜Only joking!
    – Merry Christmas Micah my wish to you is what ever you desire to come true. Love, health, happiness and luck above all!
    Money was in the Titanic. Luck had not!

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