Tigger’s Musings

I thought a lot about what to write about this week in the blog and got to thinking about the way we talk about TTWD. I am very lucky to have a buddy in my life who shares our lifestyle. Clare and I are able to talk about life with a Top and its advantages (and disadvantages!) It’s really nice to have someone you can tell that you think you’re going to be in trouble because you forgot to take your migraine medicines for three days now or wonder if it’s really that important to mention to your Top that you stayed up reading until 2 AM and not 11 like you tried to tell her. I mean, seriously, can you imagine telling someone at work or school that your wife is going to punish you tonight for not doing something you promised to do? I don’t think so!

The other fun thing to do is plan mischief together! This is the part of our relationship that I don’t think gets talked about enough; the joy we get out of messing with our Tops! Sometimes it can be fun to poke the bear! The four of us went on vacation earlier this year to a theme park and so we were trying to come up with a way we could have a little fun with them without being mean or too bratty. I mean, we didn’t want to end up in real trouble on vacation! We found the best matching Tshirts! I bought them and didn’t say anything to Micah. Since Clare was coming from a different location her Top obviously had no idea. Imagine their surprise, then, when we came out together the second morning with matching shirts! Hers said, “I’ll bring the alcohol.” Mine said, “I’ll bring the bad decisions.” We all enjoyed the joke and the attention we got from the shirts that day in the park. The Tops got their revenge later that week, but that is their story to tell!

So, anyway, that got me thinking about the words we use when we talk about TTWD. It’s kind of like when we talk about going to the bathroom. You know how most people don’t actually say they’re going to go to the bathroom? We say, “I have to excuse myself” or “I need to step away”. Some people use a traveling motif, “I need to make a stop” or “I need to make a little visit.” There’s always the men’s “I need to go to the john!” It occurred to me that we do the same thing with spanking. When I was a kid there was no beating around the bush. Mom or Dad just announced, “That’s it. You’re getting a spanking for that!” But as an adult we are not so straight forward, it seems.
For example, Micah likes to say that we’re “going to have a conversation.” Yeah, some conversation! Mostly it’s her scolding and the paddle conversing with my butt! Clare said the other day that her Top was going to “light her up.” I had a beautiful vision there of a Roman Candle! We both know we’re in deep trouble when we’re told to “go to the bedroom right now!” And if Micah sits on the couch and pats her lap I’m just dead meat.
(The advantage to the couch is that we have a dog that will jump up and try to get between us when she sees me in that position! Good puppy!)

And what do you folks with kids do? I was in that position many years ago and we mostly communicated through looks. Now, I admit that as a teacher with many years of experience I have a look that stops kids dead in their tracks! But my girlfriend narrowing her eyes would calm me down pretty fast! Sometimes when I get excited my ADD comes out to play and I get more than a little loud and, I’ll admit it, a bit obnoxious. Luckily, that has calmed down with age! But in my late 20’s and early 30’s combine that with alcohol and it was a hell of a ride! So, if she could catch my eye and give me “the look” it would usually calm me down and stop me from going off the tracks.

So, 2 questions this week. Number 1: Who do you talk to about TTWD? Do you have a friend you can rely on when you’re in trouble or planning mischief? Number 2: What do you call spanking? Do you have signal words or phrases you use?